Perfect in my Mind

Perfect in my Mind

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Re: Facebook

I have been getting quite a few questions regarding my Facebook account lately, so I thought I'd share my thoughts on the subject here.

Social Media.  Love it, right?

Not right.  Not all of the time, anyway.

I was 17 when I first got my Facebook account, and that was actually pretty hipster of me. 
This was back in the day when you needed a school e-mail to sign up, and you had to join a college or university network.  When I first signed up, I had ten "friends" and only four of them were real-life-hang-out friends.  Even with those ten "friends" I was instantly fascinated by the world of social networking and obsessed with checking in on my virtual friends and acquaintances. While I'm proud to say I never got into Farmville or Mob Wars,  I would get on Facebook multiple times a day, for hours at a time.  



The word "excessive" immediately came to mind as soon as I typed that last sentence.  At 17, with a buzzing social calendar and more than enough school assignments to keep me occupied I had no reason to seek out electronic companionship.  But I did.  

Almost six years have passed since my first login to Facebook.  At different points over the past six years I have experienced varying degrees of reliance on the social networking site.  Some days I could re-hash every status update of my nearly 500 friends while other days I wouldn't have a clue what was going on.  Some days I would look at the lives of my friends and "friends" and compare myself relentlessly.  Other days I would wonder if people were comparing themselves to me.

When I think about the kind of life I want for my baby, tears immediately come to my eyes.  It's crazy how much you can love something that is the size of a peach.  I think about what I had as a child, and I want the same for my sweet little babe.  I want him or her to grow up being confident.  And I want him or her to have a mommy who is present.  I feel like these two words cannot exist adequately in my life when  I dedicate so much time to social media.  So, about a week and a half ago I deleted my Facebook account.  This decision is not right for everyone, but for me (right now, at least) it is perfect. I might change my mind next week, or I might change my mind in ten years.  Who knows?  For right now, it is important to me to learn how to manage my time and insecurities better. 

If you're wondering if I deleted you from my "friends" list, I didn't.  I deleted me.  
If you're wondering if I don't like you anymore, and that's why we're not friends, you're wrong.  I am just taking a break.
If you are wondering if I am a weirdo for taking down my account, you're right.  But whatev.

What are your thoughts on Facebook?  Do you think I'm a wacko?

ETA:  I recently re-activated my account--but my break from Facebook helped me SO MUCH.  I feel like I use it so much more responsibly and have learned how to manage my time better.  Unplugging for a few months was a good experience for sure.  

8 comments:

Sean Marie said...

I don't think you're a wacko and if you are then I'm a wacko too and everyone can suck it.

I delete or I should say deactivated my FB account over a month ago and have zero desire to get back on it. It does take up too much time and it's pointless. I realized I really, really, really, truly don't care what 99% of people post about. I just don't. I don't care who ate what for dinner, I don't care who is at what bar or club. I don't want to hear about the little annoyances people feel while at the grocery store or elsewhere.

LaynahRose said...

I'm so over facebook. It's like, I don't even like getting on...it's just something I do!

Alexis Kaye said...

I think thats super commendable of you

Autumn said...

I also think that is totally commendable.

I took my social media accounts off of my blog because I didn't want the obligation. After that, I wanted to see how much I used it to help me decide if I do want to keep it. Pretty sure I am getting rid of at least twitter.

Autumn said...

I also think that is totally commendable.

I took my social media accounts off of my blog because I didn't want the obligation. After that, I wanted to see how much I used it to help me decide if I do want to keep it. Pretty sure I am getting rid of at least twitter.

Durfee said...

Girl, I'm 1.5 years facebook sober, and that's exactly how it feels, like I'm congratulating myself at a facebook addicts anonymous meeting.

Sure, I've got all kinds of social-political reasons to boycott facebook, and those are definitely the reasons I give new people in my life when asked about not having a facebook.

But in reality, I was obsessive; comparing myself to other people, learning about people I didn't care about or even remotely know, spending hours completely checked out from anything else I could be deeming as important.

Welcome, friend.

Durfee said...

And your peachbaby is going to love having a mamma glued to him/her instead of a computer monitor.

Congratulations, again!

Hope you're doing well and feeling amazing and when you're not feeling amazing distracted enough by peachbaby thoughts.

Kylie said...

I found myself nodding a lot during this post. It's one reason why I made my blog private. I really am over facebook, but need to get over the addiction haha. Instagram on the other hand...I'm trying harder lately to definitely be more present. I don't want to be the mom glued to her phone/computer when I could be playing with my kids(or doing other, productive things).