Perfect in my Mind

Perfect in my Mind

Friday, March 4, 2011

The Secret to Happiness

 I, like most adolescents, was incredibly insecure.  I never thought I was pretty enough, or smart enough, or funny enough.  I walked through the hallways of school with my hand covering some of my face.  I felt extreme anxiety whenever anyone asked me to do something with them.  My thought process always seemed to consist of:  "They don't really want to hang out with me.  They just feel sorry for me." I constantly compared myself to my beautiful and talented friends--and always felt that I fell short.  I knew what it meant to be confident, but I didn't know how to be confident.

Then I learned something that changed my life.  A secret powerful enough to fill me with courage and self-confidence.

My mother and I were attending a Young Women's conference for our stake, and the keynote speaker taught me this:

"You are much happier when you assume that everyone likes you."


That's right.  Simple as that.  Pretend that you're awesome, and you are.  If not to everyone else, at least you will be to yourself.

So that's what I do.  I wear what I want.  I talk how I like to talk.  I converse with whomever I want to converse with.  And I live exactly how I want to live.

And you know what?  I'm happy.



So, if it's quite alright with you, I'll continue to be me.  And I'll continue to pretend that you love me.

Happiest Friday, lovlies!

14 comments:

Lula said...

That is absolutely true!! Keep being yourself girl!

katou said...

Well i like you and every thig you said make sense to me all we need in this world is to be ourselves :)
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MicheleBryant said...

You ARE awesome!

Annette said...

What a beautiful post! My son is beyond lucky/blessed. Thanks for being YOU!!

Papa said...

Chelsea, your post was such an honest, open and self-enlightened expression that it made me so grateful James secured an eternal place in your sweet heart. Sealed and solemnly bonded for time and for eternity. You are unique and lovely beyond words and we love you so very much, dear daughter.

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Pearl Girls said...

This is such a good post and so true!

-Elizabeth
Girls Who Wear Pearls

Laura Eve said...

So good. And so true. Spent way too much time in High school comparing myself to friends and trying to decipher motives. But when I really thought about it, I'd always rather be me.

Sara Shoemaker said...

I really love blogs with a hint of inspiration to them among the cuteness!!I've struggled with confidence issues too and this is a great message :) Love your blog!! Let's be blog buddies.

Brittany Lew Whoo said...

Thank you so much for commenting! I decided to head on over to your blog...and I was blown away by this post! You must be a really amazing girl. I feel like that is something that a proverb would say! And i'm so glad that it helped you be a happier person.

Thanks again! <3

Jung said...

This post owns. Im the opposite, i used to assume everyone liked me and was very happy. then a couple bad experiences = me thinking everyone hates me. life is worse right now, so your post makes agreat point.

d.a.b.e said...

Youre so adorable! :)

Everyday Love said...

What a great post! You are so beautiful!! Who cares if not everyone in the world loves us. I used to be so upset if 1 person didn't like me. Now, well, I really don't care! haha I know who I love and who loves me and that's enough! =)

theresa said...

Love yur insights in things, wow I agree with you with the whole confident thing. But I'm afraid that if people see that I like myself, people will think I'm cocky.

Theresa xoxoxo

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